compatible: capable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with another or others: compatible family relationships.
If this the case, I'd venture that 95% of society is compatible with one another if even on the most basic level.
So how much compatibity is necessary for a maritial relationship? Society and e-harmony would have you believe that this level of compatibility is complex and depends on similarilty and/or identical answers to numerous and varied questions.
I beg to differ. The pusuit of this narrow-minded compatibilty is to be in search of the male version of myself. I don't want to be with someone so similiar to myself. That would get so boring after a while, plus the man I marry today is not likely to remain unchanged over a lifetime. The extrovert might best suited for an introvert. A gormet chef could get along well with someone whose palitet is no more sophisticated than spaghetti and microwave popcorn. A rock climber could find bliss with a bookworm. These people would take the other outside of themselves, showing the other a world that they might not have otherwise known.
Unfortunately, most people aren't looking for a marriage that will change them and challange them, but rather a partner whose similiarties validate the person that they already are. And that makes sense. A marriage of opposites would require not only greater faith, but truly a love that is based not on personality but on a covenant. Don't get me wrong. My husband must be a Christian and he must desire to reach all people for Christ and be willing to follow Him wherever He might lead us, but past that I'm not too particuliar. I'm looking for some to challenge me, not just to agree with me.
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